Last weekend I traveled with my oldest son to a father-son event. It was a wonderful enrichment opportunity for our relationship as he grows into a young man. Almost 15 years have passed since I became a father for the first time. Where has all that time gone?
If you are anything like me, the days roll by much too quickly. The speed at which we move down life’s highway makes it easy for significant moments in life to become lost in a blur. My role as father is something I cannot take for granted. I encourage you to slow down and think about being a father or ponder the impact of a father or father-figure in your life.
Here are a few nuggets on fatherhood about which I have been reminded this week:
- Being a father is a privilege. Not every man gets an opportunity to be a father.
- Joy can be a byproduct of the relationship. With younger children a father can allow his silly side to come forth. When children get to the young-adult stage of life, a father can begin to relate on a more adult level.
- Laughter! My children provide some of the most hilarious moments by random observations or piecing together words in an unusual manner – many times to uproarious laughter. Surely yours do the same!
- Your influence can live on beyond your lifetime. It takes intentionality for a father to think generationally about the impact those he shepherds will have in the future. This is a daunting challenge but necessary if a father is to create a legacy of which he can be proud.
I recognize that the celebration of Father’s Day yesterday may actually cause pain to some individuals. It grieves me that some men who father children on this earth can act in ways that will cause such devasting pain to their children. It should not be this way. I would implore those of you who have been wounded to look beyond the pain. I am absolutely convinced that you can be freed from heartache. It is my firm belief that God can bring other men of character and honor into your life. These father-figures can show you the righteous and unconditional love that a good father should.
Let’s not allow the speed of life, distractions, or pain to cause us to miss out on the magnificence in fatherhood. Life is sure to remind us of the negatives associated with it. Take time to focus on the positives, contemplate ways to improve, and chart a course for the future.
Question: What are the positives you remember about your father? What actions did your father (or father-figure) take that have impacted who you are today? You can leave a comment by clicking here.
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